Kelly Rowland: The X Factor

Kelly Rowland is a cutie pie to me. She has the standard talent required of r&b singers today (sexy looks, generic voice), but she works it. Actually, I think she holds back. Despite saying she has come into her own, I think she’s still afraid to truly embrace her power. I won’t get too deep into why I think that is  😉 …Rowland will be a judge on the third season of The X Factor (USA). She was previously a judge on the UK edition. I wish her well!!


President Obama

Welp, President Obama has been a disappointment. Maybe I should have gone head and voted for Hillary Rodham Clinton. I was initially a big fan of hers. But, she probably would have sucked too. As a matter of fact, I know she would’ve, as she currently co-signs President Obama’s warmongering. Actually, I’m kicking myself for not voting for the Green Party’s president/vice president nominees: Cynthia McKinney  and Rosa Clemente. I’m ashamed actually. As someone who advocates for women of color leaders, why I didn’t  vote for them, is beyond me. I guess I got suckered into the two-party nonsense, like everyone else. But, not anymore. I am now an independent voter, as of the 2012 election.

President Obama has been a disappointment due to a few reasons…

(1) He tends to be disrespectful/condescending towards the black community  (you know, the people who got him the gig in the first place, YOU’RE WELCOME!). Let’s look at his recent comments at the 50th Anniversary of the March on Washington: “And then, if we’re honest with ourselves, we’ll admit that during the course of 50 years, there were times when some of us claiming to push for change lost our way. The anguish of assassinations set off self-defeating riots. Legitimate grievances against police brutality tipped into excuse-making for criminal behavior. Racial politics could cut both ways, as the transformative message of unity and brotherhood was drowned out by the language of recrimination. And what had once been a call for equality of opportunity, the chance for all Americans to work hard and get ahead was too often framed as a mere desire for government support — as if we had no agency in our own liberation, as if poverty was an excuse for not raising your child, and the bigotry of others was reason to give up on yourself.” HUH?!  Once again (like all of his speeches), this one was for his white audiences. I thought it was very insulting of him to try to sneak in the so-called pathologies of the black community. This was an event to honor those that sacrificed their lives for my freedom.  But that’s typical President Obama. The President and First Lady (who I used to LOVE, now she’s just okay to me)  did the same thing to black college students, this past summer. Instead of honoring these students at their graduation, the Obamas harped on what was wrong with black folks. Again.

Mrs. Obama (at Bowie State University) stated “Today, more than 150 years after the Emancipation Proclamation, more than 50 years after the end of ‘separate but equal,’ when it comes to getting an education, too many of our young people just can’t be bothered,”Today, instead of walking miles every day to school, they’re sitting on couches for hours, playing video games, watching TV. Instead of dreaming of being a teacher or a lawyer or a business leader, they’re fantasizing about being a baller or a rapper … ” This may be true for some black youth, but obviously not for the students in the audience, WHO ARE ABOUT TO GET THEIR DEGREES. Also, just because some black youth are slacking off now,  it doesn’t mean they won’t go on to accomplish great things. President Obama has admitted to being a lost youth, using drugs, etc., and he turned out okay.  It’s strange, how the Obama love to stereotype black folks. But, as I stated, these speeches really are for white audiences. It’s a shame we keep getting thrown under the bus for white approval. Because they damn sure aren’t doing this to the LGTBQ or Latina/o communities.

(2) Hanging out with Jay-Z and Beyonce.  This really chapped my hide, as I LOATHE Jay-Z and everything he stands for. Beyonce would be okay, if she got some backbone and rejected looking like a white woman for fame. But Jay-Z, ugh. I know he’s trying to be a mainstream “business man” now, but  the truth is he has gotten famous/rich off the degradation of the black community/women. Heck, he still does it. He still brags about “flooding streets (with drugs),” uses the N-word like it’s going out of style with his white audiences, and still refers to women (hell, his own wife and probably soon his daughter) as bitches. He’s just a tacky piece of work. Yet, who was President Obama kicking it with this past election? :/ That’s why I find his speeches so amusing. You scolding black folks to “act right,” yet hanging out with the  likes of Jay-Z. An unrepentant drug dealer. Yeah, I know some of it was to get financial support/look cool to the kids, but come on. It’s just hypocritical. I really have to laugh at how Mrs. Obama was running around being the biggest Beyonce fan. She said in her speeches to black graduates “aspire to be more than rappers/singers.” But she said this a year or so ago: “Gosh. If I had some gift, I’d be Beyonce, I’d be some great singer.” Um, hmm.  Thankfully, it looks like the Obamas have calmed down on their Jay-Z/Beyonce worship. But still, very telling.

(3) The President’s warmongering. As I type this, President Obama is preparing to drop drones on Syria, with the possibility (well he WILL) of killing innocent women and children. I wonder if the Nobel committee wish they could take back that Peace Prize? Wow, President Obama has been as bad as Bush. But, I guess it shouldn’t be surprising. President Obama has often talked about his love/admiration of Ronald Regan :/ I used to give the president the benefit of the doubt. When he first took office, I thought he had to play the game (initially) to get in good. I figured he would eventually flip the script, and truly live up to his promises in the speech, he gave election night ’08.  My face is cracked. I have more cynical friends, who said I should have known all along. That it really doesn’t matter the skin color/gender of the President, they won’t really challenge the status quo. Too many folks have an investment in keeping things just the way they are. Otherwise, things would have changed years ago for people of color, the poor, women, etc., but things have gotten worse.

I still believe in voting (just in case), as too many folks died for that. I do think there are some folks (like McKinney and Clemente) who would try to change things, if they could. And it’s why they will never be President/Vice President . In a white capitalist patriarchy, they are too much of a threat. President Obama, not so much. He has shown he’s really a conservative in sheep clothing. While I still think his win is admirable/symbolic,  it’s not enough for me anymore. I can no longer deny his anti-black/warmongering stances.

Cute, but disappointing

Natural Hair

Six years ago, I went natural. Natural for black women is going back to our unprocessed hair.  I got the idea when I saw a picture of a cute natural haired black model in Essence magazine (when I still was a fan). At the time, I was wearing braids. I took a pair of scissors and literally started cutting all the braids out of my hair, not caring if I was cutting off my real hair (usually I was paranoid about that). I was determined to get that cute short-cropped ‘do. Soon most of the braids were on my bedroom floor.  I un-plaited the rest of my hair and before I knew it, was staring at a new me. I cried. It was shocking. I eventually got over the loss of my straight hair. I have been natural ever since.  It was a relief not wasting my Saturday mornings at a salon, just to put relaxer in my hair to make it straight. It seemed like a waste of time, money and energy to make my hair be something that it was not meant to be.

Naturally Free Tonya
Me  with TWA

Eh, don’t get me wrong. I’m not a “Natural Nazi” (I hate this term and the fact there’s actually a definition in the “urban dictionary,” blah). As a matter of fact, last year I started wearing wigs on occasion (still curly, though). It’s just a way to have a different look/experiment with color. So, I don’t have anything against black women who relax/wear weaves or wigs.  My only issue, is that I think not enough black women even think about wearing their natural hair out. IMO, I think black women should do it once (or twice or three times 🙂 at some point in their life. It’s disturbing to know SOME black women go to their graves, not learning to appreciate their own hair.  I think it’s a combination of still buying into white standards of beauty and fear of not knowing how to care for their natural hair (despite all the resources available now). Also,  there are still very ignorant/hateful folks towards natural haired black women.  This causes some black women to shy away from showing their own hair.

Let’s take for example, Sheryl Underwood. The comedienne recently made disparaging remarks about natural black hair:

Sheryl Underwood, stand-up comedy star, actress, and co-host of CBS’ totally-not-a-ripoff-of-The View gabfest The Talk, has spent the better part of the Labor Day weekend fending off blistering criticism on Twitter over remarks she made on the show about natural black hair. Discussing supermodel Heidi Klum‘s revelation that she saves all of her sons’ shorn hair, Underwood asked “Why would you save afro hair?” and in questioning the utility of the saved hair, observed that “You can’t weave afro hair,” and that “You never see us at the hair place going ‘Look, here, what I need here is, I need those curly, nappy beads…That just seems nasty.”–from

There seems to be a lot of anti-black attitudes from black comedians, these days. Sad this time it was from a black woman. Strangely, a black woman who claims to be a proud member of a black sorority. Underwood has always given off self-loathing vibes to me. I’m sure working in white Hollywood with its anti-black propaganda, doesn’t help. She probably thought she was being funny, but she failed miserably. I hope she gets some self-respect. I hope her comments don’t discourage black women from accepting their hair in its natural state.